Hello my friends- as I mentioned some posts back, my son has reached out and is wanting to get together. He has been sober since around mid April and with his recent texts, he says he is feeling more himself.
For those who don’t know, I have not verbally spoken to or seen my son physically since last December after Christmas. He relapsed for the umpteenth time and his treatment of me ( and his family) was so bad that I had to block him around February. This last relapse was particularly awful. We’ve been communicating by text here and there after I felt it was safe to unblock him. He went to the hospital in April to detox.
I told him I do want to get together, but that I can’t just pretend that the last 5 months didn’t happen. I told him that I need to share with him what my side is like and that if he is not ready to do that, we should postpone for a bit. He said he was fine to meet.
I will let you all know how it goes. I love him and miss the real him so much, but I’m going to be a bit careful. We’re meeting for lunch in a public place. I will tell him how I feel. I am a different mom than the way things were in the beginning when I was practically begging to keep him in my life at any and all costs- usually to me. Not any more. I really want him in my life but with healthy boundaries and I plan on telling him what those boundaries are.
Wish me luck and I’ll let you all know! ❤