Hi SomeBloke, yes I did wonder whether it was an old post. I’m just doing this because when I was in your situation….there was no support. Al-anon were useless.
Please muster up the courage to leave. I also understand the shame that you may feel and that you may worry that people are thinking that you are guilty by association. To be honest, it’s obvious who is the capable Parent and who isn’t.
Please make plans to leave. The Addict will hang on to you ( under the guise of calling it Love ), this is not Love, it’s suffocation. Unfortunately if you stay, your Son will also get sucked into this and feel that he has to hide it from everyone, etc, etc and won’t be living a free life. I saw this with teenagers with Parents with an alcohol or drug addiction in the Priory ( my husband was in there, more than once, it didn’t work ). I thought….I’m not letting that happen to my Son….!! You must get away for both of your sakes. x