My heart goes out to you, you sound lovely but honestly you can’t fix this only he can. If you want to know where all of this goes, read the Theresa thread on this forum, it’s a group of mum’s trying to help with and survive our children’s addictions. That will tell you everything you need to know about the years you can lose in waiting for someone you love to find the strength within themselves to change their mindset and build a new life. It’s not as simple as just giving up a substance that is highly addictive, they have to change their lives, take responsibility, work every single day at being drug free.
I heard an interview on the radio last week with a young guy who’d got clean then relapsed when his partner had a baby. Eventually he did get clean again and got access to his child, after it was taken into care by the authorities. That is not a future that anyone wants. There’s a happier life out there for you xxx