I’m so glad YOU replied. Because getting advice from a person ina similar situation to him is helpful and meaningful. I’ve told him, begged him to get more help than he’s getting. He is though starting zoom meetings again this week. But when i mention a sponsor he says he doesn’t need one he just has to stay focused as he knows he doesnt want that life. But that hasn’t worked for 5 years. He started taking drugs at age 14. He’s now 40. I didn’t know any of this until I was emotionally invested in him and our future. What a naive idiot hey . I still see the biggest problem as his friends as they all take . But he calls them brothers and his family and if he needs to work on him being strong not removing them from his life. Also hasn’t worked so far for him. I know I’ve done the right thing for me and my children but it’s not right for him as , as I put in a previous post , I feel like I’ve thrown him to the lions. His parents won’t take him back. They are elderly, and one has heart problems and other dementia. They can’t handle the stress and worry but I do agree he would be best at theirs. Until he cuts all ties with old friends and gets own place I will be a distanced supportive friend. However hard that is. Thank you for replying. And well done for keeping going, you deserve a peaceful happy life as you are worth it X
