Thank you for your replies.
Hellosmee and Jem- yes, we did think we would give it a go when I found out I was pregnant but I agree that we didn’t know each other enough by that stage and I do not think we are compatible.
It’s not actually just the alcohol that’s a problem, in addition to what I put in my original post he can snap at me (either sober or when drinking) about the most mundane things and I actually start questioning what on earth is going on. He even snapped at me 2 days after I came out of hospital with baby.
This morning I came downstairs to find 3/4s of a bottle of red wine gone; he was meant to be on a nightshift last night until 7am today but he was able to finish at 11.30pm instead. So it appears he bought a bottle on the way home and almost finished it off. It’s so sad..
I know what I need to do. In a way I don’t worry about bringing baby up alone as I do everything for her now anyway. He barely does anything at all. What concerns me most is that he will have contact with her without me there when we split. I can understand why people find it hard to leave.
Thanks for your replies x