That’s good that he wasn’t up to anything he shouldn’t be! That’s a great idea to keep it on your phone, I found writing very helpful when times were at their toughest, but I ended up burning it. I probably sound dramatic having this reaction to a few drinks. But my boyfriend is as much an alcoholic as coke addict, probably a lot more. Its the deceit and lying directly to my face that I can’t accept anymore.. He had been completely sober for over 3 months and was so proud of his 3 months badge.. I don’t get how he can throw away his sobriety and our relationship for a few sneaky drinks! Especially when he’s got so much support from rehab, ca, his friends and family, he knows what he should do when he’s struggling, just why did he go back to his old tricks? He knows that if he hadn’t of been caught, it would only be a matter of time until he was back taking coke.
He’s telling me that he let a lot of his new routine go, eg morning meditation, missed a meeting because we were travelling and things started to slip, he said that he needs to start with a sponsor again to do the steps. It all sounds fairly reasonable to me, but this last year has taken it’s toll on me and I don’t know if I’m still being manipulated? Has anyone been in this situation and their partner managed to turn it around? He said that he’s struggling with the first step acceptance.