Hi sisterindistress,
Welcome to the forum, everyone here has a loved one who has addictions and also some people in recovery offering support and advice.
Thank you for sharing your story. I know this must be very hard for you. I know adfam homepage offer advice and counselling also Drugfam is available for support. Maybe they could assist you?
Living with a person who has an addiction is a nightmare. We went through the same with my son since he was 14. He had alcohol and cocaine addictions. I know about the aggressive and selfish behaviour, waiting for the next bad thing to happen.
Until he realises he has a problem and seeks help, it’s a very tricky situation to make them do something they don’t want to do. It’s also difficult to reason with someone who has an addiction or mental health issues.
In the meantime, seek help for yourself, look after your own health and well-being.
My son is currently 7 months clean, with help from AA and CA groups and meetings.
Take care ❤
Lx