Everyone has there own helping and coping strategies. I’ve found in my experience you can’t make him do anything, but you can suggest and lead, let him know the strategies that will help him if he wants. We’ve helped him in the past and I now know that didn’t help him at all, it ‘enabled’ his habit and put people in over 20k worth of debt – out of our pockets and into the pockets of drug dealers. That was a mistake I wish we never did, but you can’t go back but we can learn. He manipulates and lies all the time when he is on drugs, there is no truth so we have had to really delve and communicate with family members and collaborate what he has said to everyone. It’s the drugs and not my son, I love my son it not the drugs and refuse to give any more money to drug dealers. I feel with this strategy it is working – my son knows he will get absolutely no money for drugs from anyone, we give him food vouchers and help with his phone and that is it. He has a roof over his head and if he loses that it’s his choice. We have dealt with police, hospitals, fights and violence and have managed to come out of it exhausted and emotionally challenged but we are all alive. His blips have made me think of his suicide or prison and these have made my thoughts very very very black. I’ve been on this site at my wit’s end and people stories give me strength in a way I can’t explain. Look after yourself and find your own strategy. Xx
