Hi both
I don’t know if it helps but I also get the same
The always say you lash out at the one closest to you.
My partner has said sometimes it’s almost like if he says all this stuff and I leave then it proves him right that I was always going to leave
I had a long talk with my MIL last night and she’s told me I have to draw a line – I have to stand up to him and say no you are not saying that to me.
It’s so hard when you love an addict as I’m finding out. The illness takes over the person we know them to be and we end up bearing the brunt of their unhappiness.
As I’ve found with my husband unless this week – they have to absolutely hit rock bottom to realise they need to find up
On Sunday my husband made some analogy about how he drinks:takes stuff as armbands to keep afloat and not drown
I said to him no. Absolutely no. They aren’t the armbands. Those things are the things drowning you and making you sink.
As friends and family have said to me this last couple of days “think what you want. Don’t just accept this, think about your well-being too”
I’ve told my mum some of it
He’s told his parents everything
He’s also told two of our friends (a couple)
This support network will make it easier for us all I think.
It’s taken a long time to get here though:
Sorry for all the babble:
Just remember – we are not alone. It’s so hard being the partner of an addict, and so hard being an addict too – but we have to find support and find ways to remember it’s not our fault xx