Imagine dragon.
I also had to kick my son out.
Same as you his behaviour was intolerable and i had a young son in the house. Everyone with experience in addiction said to kick him out and I had to put the rest of us first.
I dont beleive what I did was wrong. I did bang on alot of doors such as the council for housing etc but only through ringing every charity in homelessness and addiction did I stumble le on where he is now.
He has been clean since February and working.
He has me blocked on his phone and wont see me but I hope one day he sees what I did as the actions of a mum who wanted the best for him.
So is this a success story as u asked for..well hes clean and on new years day he almost died of an overdose so its alot better than it was. But I’m. Mindful that he has relapsed before and I now know that he will always be an addict even if he is in recovery.
We have just returned from holiday and it’s the first where I havnt been a stressed out nervous wreck and taking calls from police landlords
and allsorts. Yes theres a sadness and worry but compared to where we have been at the moment it’s ok. I’ve realised that I have to keep the worry in check I actually am more worries about my 10 yr old who hasnt got any friends or playdates thanks to judgy middle class mums who have gossuped about my eldest son and my situation.
Anyone who says how cld she kick him out hasnt walked in my shoes…but the negative affect of addiction on the wider family is still present.
I am so grateful for the support on this page because I know I wld be forever blaming myself what awful mum I am yet I know none of us on here have done anything to deserve this.
The system needs to change this is all a product of poor mental health but as soon as drugs and alcohol are thrown into the mix noone seems to want to help.
So imagine dragon there is hope and you must hope as sadly with addicted live ones that’s all we sometimes have to cling onto.
My son is only 23 and when he was 19 like you I never thought he wld change. Just keep hoping and praying.
Joanie I hope u feel better soon I had basal cell last summer..let’s face it we have enough to deal with without anything else! Focus on you.
Lindyloo I feel I’ve known your situation for a while along with other regulars on this thread..a year is fabulous enjoy everyday of peace. Well done to your son!!