Hi sew26
I’m so sorry to hear of your situation but I can relate too.
It’s quite scary how many people are out there in the same situation.
I’ve asked myself the same question why do I stay what’s holding me here. It’s the man I love. I’ve been married 18 years and got him to admit it 5 months ago. But I knew : years prior and asked him but he denied it.
I agree they are like Jekyl & Hyde.
If your partner realises he needs help and is open with you perhaps you can now get him to rehab so you can build your life back together perhaps it’s something you can do together as I believe from reading stories on here that rehab doesn’t have an end date.
You take care of yourself. Your not alone. Well done for reaching out here.
Stay strong
Navy xx