Purpleheart, I am so glad that you are making the changes for yourself, you have not deserted him and you did love him, just not the drug addict part. I have discovered that they have to decide to get clean and mean it, not just trying to say what people want to hear. My brother went into rehab several times, I am sure they are good for some. but not for him, he always absconded and met a lot more addicts in there who became friends! To stop an addiction is not just about stopping the substance, that just leaves a big hole, they have to find something to replace it. With AA it is the twelve steps, I am not sure if it is similar for drug addicts? I hope that things improve for you and your children xx
Bella pop. feel for you so much, you probably know inside what you should do, just look after yourself. I discovered that I was not really helping my brother, just constantly bailing him out or rescuing him, when he had to learn to do it himself, and he never has. So I am still struggling with wether my helping him all these years actually did more harm than good because he has never learned to look after himself and feel proud of it.