Thank you for your replies – it helps speaking to people that know what you are going through. I have told a few close friends but they all say to just leave as it will never change and I’m starting to think that too. The trouble is that he won’t admit he has a problem. My biggest dilemma right now is do I tell him I know as I am scared of the arguments/lies/him leaving yet again and if I don’t tell him that means I’m enabling him to carry on. I’m so sorry you are dealing with the same sort of situation too although you are a few steps ahead of me and I really hope that you get things back on track without cocaine. right now though I can’t really see light at the end of the tunnel and this is my life which I so don’t want as he has promised me so many times before x