It’s difficult that he won’t admit it’s a problem, I worry my husband is only pretending he is ready to change too with addicts being liars and that. I can be cynical in order to protect myself.
Everyone’s situation is different, it depends on how he reacts to you when you talk to him about it. In my situation husband is fine to test (even though he was actually using some days before and passing them!) But would your husband react badly if you asked? From what I read they really need to be ready to change and that we will never actually know. Thank you I appreciate it, I hope we do too but I am sceptical at times if this is ever going to go anywhere in the longrun x