Hi Navy – thanks for referencing me once more.
Qwerty I am so sorry to hear what you’re going through. I shan’t regurgitate my story however well worth a read. Unfortunately (and fortunately in an ironic sense) there are many parallels to be had regarding the stories of addicts. They’ll lie with all the evidence stacked against them because the truth is too painful to bear. I could never have admitted I had a problem until it really was a problem. Even then I kidded myself that it was all under control so I could seemingly keep using.
Sadly users can only really quit as a result of consequence. You as a loved one can action the consequence as you don’t deserve this but you really can’t help them quit unless they really want too. For me when I stopped, I stopped for me only. I unintentionally stopped for my 2 lovely kids and my gorgeous wife but be in no doubt I stopped for me so I could present the best version of myself to the world.
I wouldn’t change who I am for anything in the world. My wifey is currently out and I’ve had a delightful evening with my 10 and 7 year old watching films and pigging out. The old me would’ve allowed the kids to sit on their iPads, I’d have had my mate around drinking and sniffing waiting for my wife to come so I could literally have my wicked way with her. Point being that once you really want to stop you see the beauty in the world. There is so much love around but most of us are blinded by it.
Sadly there isn’t much you can do but protect yourself and not allow your partner to effect your happiness. This is his problem which he needs to fix, you can only make it know what is acceptable and what isn’t. I’m he chooses the latter then you have your answer regards to what he’ll continue to do. You don’t deserve to live a life of worry or doubt because you’ll never trust that person implicitly and this will effect your mental well-being.