I’m really sorry to hear about your son’s drug taking and his father’s suicide. It’s very tough on you if he’s moved back home and is stealing. There are plenty of mum’s on this forum that have experience of being in this situation. My advice is that you have a rule that hat if he’s in your home he is also getting treatment, and that you can have permission to talk to his caseworker. I didn’t do this and wasted many years and £000’s. Ultimately you will run out of cash and your own health will suffer, so you are better implementing this sooner rather than later. Only they can make the changes to put them on the road to recovery – your son will probably try and blame you for his problems. It’s very hard to kick an adult child out or to know what to do if they aren’t mentally ready to stop doing drugs, but you have to protect yourself so that you are there to help when he is ready. Make sure you get support for yourself, Adfam can provide 1 to 1 counselling, Drugsfam have a really good helpline, there may be Famanon meetings in your area – have a look at their website. Focus on yourself, getting out and seeing people. If you have close friends and family, that you trust, tell them what is happening. It’s very easy for this to become your secret, which makes everything worse. If you work, make that a priority, it’s easy to think that you just can’t face it, but hopefully it gets you into a different headspace and is a distraction from the chaos and drama. Goodluck, and keep posting on here, there are so many mum’s going through something similar.
