I’m sorry to hear both of you are going through similar situations, as with most people on this forum. Saying it’s tough is an understatement. I will never really be able to express how it makes me feel.
I have so much sympathy for you both going through that and having to sell your house on top of it all, and you with having to move which is stressful enough. @Paw_x are you still together?
I agree, part of it has to be choice but on the other hand mine has said before how it’s like being on a desert and needing a drink of water, like his brain goes into survival mode but if he has that much insight into his problem, surely he would be able to recognise that his brain is giving him false messages?!
No, he hasn’t really tried off his own back or without me ever telling him that’s what he needs to do to get help. I got support for myself last year and as part of that he attended a few 1:1 sessions with me but still it didn’t stop his use because half of the time he doesn’t think he has a problem.
It’s a day after his binge and he is talking about getting help. I’ve decided to detach, I’m not even going to mention it as I want to see him doing it off his own back. I don’t want to hear false promises or his pitiful sorry’s and his lame excuses.
I have stupidly allowed him to come home and I feel embarrassed to admit it. How long do you give it? Will I know when enough is enough?
I mean I’m not sure I even feel the same anymore to what I did about him. Do I even love him or am I scared to be alone or am I just clinging on to false hope and empty promises? It sure is a mess xx