I would think the issue is that your aunt has Korsakoff, therefore they will very easily see her behaviour associated with alcohol rather than anything else, and again, this would be used to evade responsibility.
And I call BS on the SW will said your aunt is the most complex (also, why say that to you? That sounds like your aunt to blame, and therefore you’re partly to blame as you’re in the family, rather than they are bad at caring for you& her). Alcohol, self neglect and capacity issues are incredibly common. Unless they are brand new, then they are lying. I never get why they say complexity is a bad thing. What do you expect in SW? What’s “easy”? Why do you just want “easy” cases all the time?
I also wouldn’t let the NHS get off scot-free though, if she keeps getting admitted into hospital and they keep discharging her (or she may discharge herself?) Without a proper package of care and input from yourself then they’re failing you too.
It’s the lack of responsibility that is painful. They blame your aunt for being complex, they blame you for being stressed, and all the while they don’t have the competence or capacity to help, and they aren’t being honest to you about it.
I wish I could say “if you do x then y will happen” but unfortunately it doesn’t work like that. I worked in social care and know the system well, and I still got nowhere. I don’t wish to sound too negative, but focusing on collecting evidence, advocating for your aunt as best you can within your own ability (caring for someone with alcohol use disorder is TOUGH) with the hope of calling them out on some crap so they can do better is the best you can hope for.
I am quite vocal with my own story, and I’ve heard from other people face similar issues with SW/NHS when it comes to family addiction, from all walks of life. You are certainly not alone in this, I can promise you that.
It is not you that’s failing or doing the wrong thing.
Hospital visits are never fun, I’m sorry as well you are witnessing suicidal behaviour, it can be very distressing when a loved one does it. And I just wish a medical professional saw this and offered to help you.
I do hope you’re doing ok in this, and I’m glad my words offered some sort of comfort during this very discomforting time. Best of luck with the court of protection!
Take care
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