I’m so sorry you are going through this Navy. I know that horrible sinking feeling well, when you know it’s all going wrong again but can’t even bring yourself to ask the question as you know all you’ll get is lies in response.
Sticking by them through addiction is such a tough one as yes it’s good for them to have the support but also as addicts they can easily fall into their bad habits. I let my partner back into the family home after just a month and a half separation and within weeks he was becoming more distant, turned out he was struggling having returned to the job he was used to using at and rather than talk to me and his meetings, he had taken to using opiate painkillers. He’s now back out of the house again and thrown himself into meetings, sees me when he can but the main focus is on recovery with CA and his sponsor. I don’t know if there is a “right” way of doing it but for us it was definitely too soon to be back together and acting like all was normal as he went right back to hiding things.
I hope there’s a light at the end of the tunnel for you soon, but remember you are important in all of this and don’t let anyone disregard your feelings. I don’t know your own circumstances of course but sometimes having a bit of space between you can be a lifeline x