Hi Navy, all,
Navy you are doing so well, I bet it’s not easy at all but hopefully the boundaries provide you with some sense of stability and security.
Not the news I was hoping for couple of weeks ago.I think I just wanted my health issues to magically disappear. For a bit he was great, being the supportive husband, and he hasn’t had any lapses.
But what feels like out the blue…he has just turned very nasty and now saying unkind and untrue things.
But deep down I always knew there were other issues with the way he is ……just done a total switch on me, stomping around like a sulky teenager and saying some very unkind things. I don’t know why I didn’t think this would happen…he used to get like this now and then even before his issues with addiction. I am sensing some strong resentment, that my health issues is obviously putting him out. He is still not doing much to help his own mental or physical wellbeing ..and has explicitly blamed me.
It’s just dawned on me perhaps this is the build up/excuse for the next relapse.
I’ve been in tears all morning but I’ve got to carry on with work and attend various medical appointments. Just don’t know if I’m coming or going. Will try and work on some boundaries so he can’t hurt me anymore .