Hi scanners, oh bless you. You have been through what most of us parents have…stay strong and stick to your guns..as enablers all we do is add to the problem. We all love our kids, but at what point do they start taking responsibility for their own actions, whilst us parents keep enabling? It’s hard, believe me, because I’ve been where you are….the best thing I did was cut him off, and made him aware that if he continued to do drugs then he was on his own….it’s hard, frightening and tiring , but for us as a family was the best decision we made. My son also went to prison for several weeks, and I didn’t visit him at all. It by no means was the wake up call he needed, however it gave him time to stop and think about his shitty life. That was the end of July this year….since then he has made big steps….he got himself a job, sees a counsellor, and has had one relapse….but he’s fighting it, and I truly believe that having us in his life supporting him means more than the life he led on drugs…he just needed to see that. Every day is a battle for him, but he said to me the other day, he feels normal, and likes it….that made me cry…we still have a long way to go, mental health issues need addressing because drugs mess heads up…..continue loving your son, but make that decision to stop enabling and stick to it….hugs Hunni and here if you need to chat xxxx
