I have been in the same position, and hopefully things are getting better now. My boyfriend who I love unconditionally is a recovering crystal meth and GHB addict. It was possibly the hardest struggle of my life going through the substance abuse and withdrawal with him but he has now been clean for over 3 months and showing no signs of ever going back.
It’s tough because patience is so important I believe they need to see how much you love and support them especially through relapses ect because that’s when you will feel the closest to giving up.
I never forced my partner into anything I just said I would always support him in every way I can but its important that any decisions made to stop using is made by them.
Telling his family for me and my partner was a big step and in our case an important one but I always gently encouraged it. He needs all the support he can get from family, friends, support groups and rehabilitation centres. With only you knowing it can feel like you have far too much responsibility and its not an easy thing to do.
In the end my boyfriend got through it by abstinence recovery, meaning he doesn’t take any substance including alcohol or anything else, I also did the same even though I have never had a problem with addiction but its an important part of showing that substances aren’t needed to enjoy life in fact quite the opposite.
This is what worked for me, but I think most importantly you must remember that addiction is an illness, but unlike most illnesses people are shunned for having them rather than supported to get better
I wish you the best, hope it helps x
