Hi JR my son also uses weed and still lives at home so I know how you feel . It’s horrible watching them self destruct isn’t it ? I’ve learned over the last few years that I can’t fix him no matter how hard I try . Paying his debts and bailing him out won’t work it makes things worse . I stopped giving him money . I gave him rules that he has to stick by if he wants to continue living at home . Things have slowly improved . Is he “fixed ” no he isn’t and I doubt wether he ever will be . It’s his choice not mine . My husband has had two heart attacks in the last few months in part due to stress . I will never give up hope for my son … He’s a lovely person but boy does he have his demons . He has been of work for 2 months with anxiety and stress but refused to take prescribed medication ! He went back to work 3 weeks ago . I guess it’s s start . You have to put yourself first and stop bailing him out easier said than done I know . It’s hard work but worth it . I used to repeat the serenity prayer over and over again when things where really bad ( he was arrested for driving while stoned ) he smashed doors threw things screamed abuse at me . Tell trusted friends or family if you can .. I kept it hidden for so long once I started telling people it got easier . Is there a counselling service near you . I screwed up all my courage and went to a group meeting it was the absolute best thing I ever did .
Big hugs
Lolipop xx
