: Drugs, alcohol and mental health

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Drugs, alcohol and mental health

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Anxiety and Panic Attacks after Codeine Withdrawal by

Hi, I'm new here. I've just completed a medically-supervised detox programme to get off codeine. I was taking huge amounts (up to 30-40 tablets a day) and had been taking them on and off for about ten years. It was only fairly recently that I started taking large amounts - to start with, I only took the prescribed dose from my doctor. I've managed to successfully quit and although the physical withdrawal symptoms were unpleasant, I got through it, with the help of Subutex. However, the mental withdrawal symptoms are nothing short of horrific and don't seem to be going away. Severe depression, severe anxiety, panic attacks, feeling frightened nearly all the time and a feeling of impending doom that I can't seem to control. Is this normal? Has anyone else been in this situation before? I can't help thinking that I felt better when I was on codeine, but I couldn't continue taking such huge amounts of it. I just want to feel better psychologically and I don't know how long these horrible side-effects will last.

by BT1978

7 posts

my journey with a crack addict by

Hi Guys, I found out a few months ago my boyfriend is taking crack (and to me, is an addict in denial). He has pawned stuff to get it... uses weekly... I've been on a STEEP learning curve and think I've done well to be where I am (all things considered). I don't write this for advice, but if anyone sees themselves in what I write, it may help them. I will make it as short as possible and simply give ... my journey. * Found out partner was on crack cocaine. In shock for a few weeks. * I trawled streets, tracked him down to drug flats, roamed the streets late at night, put myself in danger numerous times, confronted drug people.. * I tried anger, threats, demands, emotional blackmail... tears.. guilt... shame... nothing made him stop. * I stopped being angry. I stopped taking it personally. I started detatching myself from it. * I've had constant ups and downs - days I would contact him and beat myself up for being weak. Then I'd be strong for a week or so, and let him do what he wants to do. Then I'd worry he was dead or OD'd somewhere and contact him. It's a cycle. If I didn't contact him, he would contact me. My last low point my birthday. I'd spent £100's on this man. He couldn't even get me a present. When I think of the thousands he's spent on that crap. Eventually when he had a period of sobriety, he gave me a present and card... them lapsed a few days later. * I've confronted one guy who won't leave him alone. It causes a massive argument and I left. When my boyfriend used the evening, he blamed me and called me a 'F***ing C***.' So I am now on the end of his anger and abuse. I walked out (luckily we don't live together). I haven't contacted him since. I don't really know what stage I am at now. I don't even know if I can say we are together. I am a realistic. I expect the worse and he has never let me down so far - with his using and pathetic excuses and apologies. But I feel strong.. stronger every time.. until I hope to get the point where I walk away for good. I see nothing but misery and futility with an addict.. and wonder what others' experiences are. Thanks for reading x

Cocaine addiction by

Hi All, I’m an addict and I know it things are very different now. Always done coke since 18 now 38 never been a major issue what I classed as taking socially when I went down the pub and it’s stopped there but I had a break down about 18 month back as my business was going bust and I got addicted for best part of four month every day and sometimes all day in the end your not doing it to get high it was Just like wanting a cigarette scary place to be when you don’t see it coming. I’m over the worst but I can’t shake it off I’m still craving it every 3/4 days and it’s not social now it’s me sitting on my self which I know is very sad but it’s become the norm I even dream about it then wake up craving I don’t know what the next step is for recover. Any comments are welcome

Am I making myself crazy? by

Am I imagining it? Hubby had a major cocaine problem that ended with us separating for 3 years although we continued to be together during that time. He turned his life around, has an amazing job, is a wonderful dad and husband except....the past couple of months he’s started to withdraw from me, sleeps in another room, if he’s not at work he’s asleep, no sex drive, EXTREME mood swings, and drinking a little too much a little too often. Then I noticed in the spare room he’s torn rectangles of paper off of letters....my guess is they’re being used to roll up and sniff cocaine? A couple of weeks ago I thought his eyes looked funny, and he had a really runny nose a couple of times. Am I being paranoid? I’ve ordered cocaine wipes that’ll be here today so I can go over the shelves etc in the spare room like I’m some sort of detective. Feels like I’m going crazy!?!?!

Boyfriend has cocaine/alcohol problem. What makes you stay? by

We've been dating for two years, and both in our early thirties. Somewhere in the beginning, I did start to notice that our dates usually involved alcohol. But dumb me didn't think to flag that. You go out to dinner and have a few drinks, didn't seem like a big deal. Eventually we moved in-together and I noticed that he drank alcohol like I drink water. And I'm hydrated AF. He also admitted that he has a problem with cocaine, but wants to stop -- says he'd been doing it everyday. He even stopped hanging in crowds where cocaine is available. I was crazy in love and believed him. However, fast forward to a year later and nothing has changed. I guess he's graduated from doing cocaine socially, to doing it by himself. We've been through cycles where I catch him using cocaine, and he throws it out with huge promises to quit. His family and I have all tried to get him to stop. What we have now is a guy who hides bottles, and spends way too much time in the bathroom. He's a great guy underneath it all, but the drugs cause problems in our relationship. It's almost like he's checked out, but not just in the relationship, with everything. If this guy didn't work with his family, he would have been fired a long time ago. It's hard to rely on him, because he constantly doesn't follow through on what he says -- big and small. I'm starting to get mad at him all the time now, and the intimacy has totally faded. I'm pretty sure we've only had sex twice this year. We got in a huge fight again, and he's staying with his family right now. I told him I didn't want him to come back unless he is sober. Issue is, his attempts to get clean never stick. Is it even possible to quit on your own? I don't think the alcohol helps either. I do want to get married and start a family one day, but even though we love each other...I'm starting to wonder what kind of life I'd be setting myself up for if I stay with him. He says that me believing in him, that he's able to stop, helps him to not use. But are these just words? We've never been separated like this before, but I keep thinking that I should cut my losses now, and permanently move out. I really want to think that he can stop, but I just don't even know if it's possible.

Need to guidance on how to avoid Cocaine forever. by

I’m sort of new to all this so bear with me! I’ve been using coke on and off I wouldn’t call myself a total addict where I need it every day or week however my issue is that each time I’m out in a crowd of mates who even hint of doing it or have some then I can’t say no. In all cases I’ve had a few drinks. I basically had a scare the other week where I was in hospital as I over did it, I started sweating and had chest plains and shortness of breath. Never been so scared in me life. I got the all clear thankfully but this has woken me up. It’s hard telling me mates cause they just laugh it off as we’re a group of drinkers but I already suffer from anxiety/adhd stuff so I feel it’s worse for me. I just want to be able to go out have a drink and if the opportunity comes where I’m offered the drug I’ll be able to just say No?

by Adfam

6 posts

Husband on cocaine by

I have been with my husband 26 years he is 49, we met out on the club scene & we have a daughter aged 17, but since he has lately got back in to that, he has changed so much, he doesn't go out as nowhere to go at present but he wants sex all the time & it's just him that he wants pleasuring & if I say no he gets mad, he takes viagra as he can't get hard otherwise, but gets frustrated when he can't come he watches porn & wants it on while we have sex which I'm not comfortable with. Any Advise

I don’t know what to do by

Hi all My husband is a addict to cocaine, the last 2 weekends he has gone n stayed out over night which is very out of character, long story short, he inherited quite a bit of money about 2 months ago as his mother passed away last October, the money has nearly gone he has not worked since last year all he does is sit at home while I’m at work doing cocaine on his own. We have been together for 4.5 years. Iv had to go on anti depression tablets due to the fact of what he has been like n doing. Out of drugs he is so nice but he is a total monster on drugs n has been now for a long time, he blames everything on me n calls me terrible names yelling abuse at me all the time.he has lost so much weight n people are asking me if he is ok, I’m so ashamed, I just don’t know what to do I love him n know deep down he is a good man but while he keeps taking this drug he is a monster.

by Rob30

7 posts

You don't take drugs, the drugs take you ... by

My son is 21, and a crack and heroin addict. I have no feelings anymore, I have been through every emotion , took him to all the mental health/therapies/worked through the withdrawals/ashamed to say lent him money for drugs/took him to his dealer to buy drugs. Initially he said it was to drop something off, then I realised. I have disregarded the baggies, bits of foil, broken straws, burn stains in the bathroom (He told me it was from cigarettes but I had told him not to smoke in the house) , time spent in the bathroom with the shower running yet he still smells? Until I googled paraphernalia and had a massive shock. Because I didn't believe he would actually take it in our home ... and now I know what the smell is, I'm not sure it will ever leave me? He has been aggressive, controlling and moody and I finally kicked him out yesterday after he came home hardly walking, then woke up on an obvious come down kicked off, took my phone and stood outside my door shouting at me and people walking past. I have no idea where he is, and although I obviously love him, I have a massive sense of relief. I have a couple friends that I can talk to, my GP has referred me to a counselling service, but I need to talk to people who actually understand! I have heard the phrase 'Peaceful yet painful'

by LuLu232

5 posts

Husband who drinks by

My husband has been drinking for over 10 years, he sought help once via CBT but did not think this helped, we moved and have a wonderful life, but the drinking has started again. I find empty bottles hidden in places, working late often involves coming out of the office drunk. We both work from home so I am aware how bad it is, he tries to hide it by hiding it in Coke bottles. If I find a bottle of rum or vodka, I pour it away, I don't care if he sees me do it or not. He often stinks of vodka and I find it so embarrassing. I am now starting to doubt if it is my problem or not, if he can hold down a job and bluff everyone then surely I need to accept this? I have now told my parents as I can't carry the burden anymore. I find my mental health is now getting affected as I know deep down he is a lovely man but he is a horrible drunk. If I move out, I will be giving up on my life that we have worked hard for.

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