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Drugs, alcohol and mental health

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Day 18 cold turkey from codeine and starting to feel like myself by

Just thought I’d put up a post for anyone who’d like to comment or discuss their opiate withdrawal/addiction. As the title says I’m currently on day 18 and starting to feel more like my normal self. I won’t lie it has been fairly difficult but just so people know there is a light at the end of the tunnel. The early physical withdrawals are the easiest part believe it or not as it’s nothing compared to the lack of motivation and energy you feel thru out so basically a mild depression. In the first week I thought I’d never get better I couldn’t do anything at all, I couldn’t tend to my 2 children, I couldn’t do any housework, I couldn’t do my job properly, I basically couldn’t get off the settee to do anything and I just thought this sad no motivation low mood was never gunna end but it does guys ! For the last few days I’ve been slowly getting better, I can tend to my kids I can do the housework altho it does tire me out and my thoughts are much happier now i can see myself slowly becoming my normal self again. Don’t get me wrong it is only day 18 and I’m still not sleeping 100% and I do still lack motivation but compared to 1 week ago I am so much better and so could you be. All the best guys and I hope this post helps just 1 person battle thru. I visit this forum daily so I will reply to anyone that wants to chat or swap stories or ask questions etc. :)

My Son Cannabis addict by

My son is 20 years old and has been smoking Cannabis for a few years. He tried to hide it at first but the smell made it obvious he was using. It has become more and more of an issue, he smokes at least 3 to 4 times a week, alone, outside. He’s wasted in a morning and looks terrible. We banned him from smoking in the house or having anything to do with weed in the house, but he just sneaks it in or lies about it. It causes huge arguments between us, his moods are low, then high and any attempt to talk to him escalate into a blazing row and him being aggressive. A few weeks ago after a particularly bad row he agreed he would stop bringing it in the house. He never thinks he has an issue as ‘everyone smokes it now’. We are very concerned that he is smoking more often than ever, and worry he has a serious problem, especially as this morning he took Edibles, despite both myself and his dad working from home. So now he’s stoned in the daytime too. He lives a good life with us, he has his own floor in our house which we’ve threatened to move him from, but we‘re worried he will move out and live with other users. We’re so worried about his mental health and the risk of him moving to other drugs, does anyone have any advice please?

Cannabis, Mental Health, threats of suicide if we try and help my niece by

My niece is severely addicted to cannabis. She is also severely mentally ill, hearing and talking to voices in her head and convinced that the cannabis is the only thing that helps. She is in desperate need of mental health support but threatens to kill herself if we get it for her, as they will take away her weed - and her mother is understandably too scared having seen her close to going through with it. She is impossible to live with, because the voices in her head make her scream and cry as well as talk to them day and night. We are struggling to find help and don’t know where to look next. Do we try and treat the addiction or the mental health issues? What can we do if she refuses help with either? She can take cannabis and then lie to people in positions of authority for the time it takes to convince them she is compos mentis, so they think she’s okay, but she really really isn’t. Help

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My husband won’t stop cocaine alcohol and weed by

Hi everyone, my life is a total mess at the moment . Im living hell every day of my life with my husband who i have a baby girl with. He doesn’t support me financially emotionally or nothing at all. Sex is good but he only good when he is sniffing cocaine and has had a drink. We currently don’t live together because he has moved out to his parents house and only stops by weekends. When he is at home with me he sniffs cocaine and drinks all night then demands sex and goes off to sleep till next evening. He wakes up in a bad mood . Shouting swearing giving me abuse. Iv tried soo hard to help him . Im losing the will power to live now. What should i do?

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Feeling stuck by

A close relative of mine has had a Ketamine addiction for 6+ years now. She's been in full rehab twice, and has stayed in a number of dry houses but had to leave as she used or drank. She is currently in council accommodation, using Ketamine daily (or drinking when she has less money), and she's not going to any groups, or pursuing counselling, or accessing any other services/support to help herself. She calls me on the phone high as if nothing is happening so I confronted her to ask what she is currently doing to address the addiction, and unsurprisingly, nothing. She said she's tried everything and nothing is working, and that I don't understand the addiction. The conversation quickly turned into blame and I'm an awful person territory so I stepped back. She's doing some part-time work, socialising here and there and has her accommodation paid for by the council so is in a very comfortable position to continue with the addiction and not do anything to tackle it. I know I can't begin to understand what it's like but the fact she's not doing anything at all to help herself and then pretty much acts like nothing is up by sending me funny videos etc, and says she's given up, is infuriating and hurtful. I have said let me know when you're doing something to address it, because I feel like it is enabling to ignore and let the relationship continue when there is no action on her part to help herself, but of course there's an underlying threat in here (no relationship unless you work at the addiction) which most likely just perpetuates the cycle she's in, but to be frank I don't want to speak to her when she's high. As a family, we spent many years brushing it under the carpet to an extent but now I've gone the other way completely - zero tolerance for it, and zero patience unless i can see she's actively doing work to address things and help herself heal. I know I sound like a pretentious know it all - but I've also gone through enough of my own journey to know my own personal boundaries. I've been a continuous support and source of comfort for her - at the cost of my own mental health because it always backfires. So I guess I'm asking what others think - is it cruel to say we can only have a relationship if she's doing work to address her addiction? Anything other than this feels like I'm enabling. I know it wont necessarily go away because she's doing the work - but at least if she's trying, well she's trying. I can't uphold a relationship with her if she's not, too much damage has been done to our relationship and I've seen too much (way too much) to now take this lightly! Thoughts gratefully received xx update: reading this back I guess it's how I communicate this with her - i.e. that it's too painful to see her carry on and not do anything to address her addiction, and I can't pretend its not serious and ignore the fact she's using. Perhaps i need to say: don't call me when you've been using or drinking, we can't meet when you've been using or drinking, I can't be around you when you're doing either because its too upsetting??

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The Betrayal by

Why didn't you tell your spouse/significant other/loved one that you tried coke (or whatever it was/is that has you out of control). And, that you want to keep doing coke, and you will keep doing coke. And, all the good/bad/ugly events that happen to you while you are experiencing the highs/lows/cravings/withdrawals - you will not ever tell me about. Why? Why was I not included in this decision of yours that has totally changed our lives? Why wasn't I even given a chance to know the truth of what was happening? This seems to be a common behavior of the addicted - hiding. It feels like a most awful betrayal and it hurts like Hell. To not know anything about it for years and feel something is so wrong. I hope someone can answer, because he still hasn't given me an answer to this.

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