Sorry this is going to be a long old story!!
I’m looking for advice even though I know the answers myself but feel so terrified by what the truth will reveal not just to me but the wider family.
I met my husband 15 years ago and we were both good time people lived going out and enjoying a night out. We married and have two lovely children now and two years ago after years of being unhappy due to money (the lack of) and me feeling completely lonely as my husband would spend all of his time in the garage drinking and I’m guessing taking cocaine I had had enough. I felt relieved obviously upset as he was mortified ( I have to add he would go on benders while the children were small and often wouldn’t come home I never questioned anything I was just focussing in being a mummy)
We got back together as he was so upset and his family just could t understand why I had left. I get that though he’s their boy. Whilst we were separated we had a drink together as he was inconsolable I went into the garden and when I came back in I caught him snorting cocaine. I said that if I ever caught him doing it again that would be it.
A year went by and we seemed to be happy but then work pressures meant he was staying up late and drinking a lot. Much has gone on for both of us I The last year bit to summarise I’ve found texts with postcodes his nose is constantly running and bleeding money cash is going out of our account and friends are suggesting he does take it on a regular basis. I have confronted him and he has denied it and I just don’t know what to do???
Any help/advice on how to tackle the denial and lies would be really appreciated