I hope to find a parent in a similar situation who can perhaps advise me on there coping methods?
Loving son almost seventeen addicted to weed and other drugs ,,not gone to school for two years now does nothing his anger recently exploded to the point of police removing him agsin only difference this time I wouldn’t have him back he has now been taken to a semi sheltered accommodation. I thought this would shock him straight as he is totally pampered but he is enjoying his freedom and mixing with young people with “ similar interests” as in drugs
I am trying to engage as many services as I can to help him , emails meetings ect to push forward with social services as they are pressuring me to have him back
I am coming to terms with this slowly but his drug addicted manipulation of me is soul destroying
I work more Than full time and love him desperately but I am constantly messaged ,,sweet to start then threatening and abusing when I say no that ,, he’s out of food can I transfer him money ,, he’s stranded out somewhere and needs cab money back ,, and yes I have on many occasions moving the money for him ,,I can no longer help him financially , there’s nothing left
I know he is using learnt behaviour because I’ve always fixed everything in the past and rarely said no , but now I’m saying no and it’s heart breaking to the point that life’s just not worth living
Hoping someone can relate to this tough love and perhaps offer some tips for coping