Hi everyone, I have just rang FRANK and they gave me this website as they said it would help me as others will be going through the same thing.
I found out last Jan that my husband was a cocaine addict through a lot of money going missing out of the joint account, I never realised as I had no reason to suspect anything.
He left home and continued for 2 months doing a lot of drugs, in this time I became a wreck and was checking everything, phone records, emails, following him I became a spy to my shame.
In March he came home as he was trying to sort himself out and I didn't want to turn my back on him. He lost his job so I took a loan out so we would be ok for money.
It was hard but I thought he was doing ok.
He told me the area we lived in was a trigger so we sold our house (one we had spent years doing up) and rented until we decided where we wanted to live, so he now has a lot of money in his bank account which is worrying me as we spent so many years doing the house up and made a good profit.
Fast forward 3 weeks ago, we got back off holiday and he was acting strange and started an argument so said so you want me to leave, all planned I can see now and he left.
He took £1000 out that night and continued to take more out each night.
On the 4th day he came around and told me it was all my fault I treated him like dirt, I spoke to him badly and we were never happy.
He is staying at his sisters house and says he is getting himself better as what's more important than our marriage is his health. (I agree with that I suppose)
What I am struggling to cope with is all the support I have given him and he has just tossed me aside like a piece of rubbish (I know I am being selfish and making it about me but its how I feel at the moment)
I have no one to talk to as friends and family where there 1st time around but they wont be this time around.
I cant eat, sleep, its affecting my job, my mind is on overdrive imagining all different scenarios, I am just not in a very nice place at the moment.
It has now turned to him txting saying he isn't coming back home (I didn't ask him to) and he needs to be on his own.
I am so confused has anyone been through similar and how did you cope.
Thanks in advance.