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Alcoholic Mother

I'm a 27 year old with an alcoholic mother. I've never done something like this, but recently, I've began to run out of ideas as to how to solve the issue.

My mother has always enjoyed a drink, although, these past 11 years have been a struggle for myself. See, she held down a job for the best part of 30 years, then due to health issues, it was taken from her in the blink of an eye. She turned to drink even more so. I get that it would be the case due to stress, depression, not being able to do what she loved. But the drinking and behaviour became progressively worse.

This all started 11 years ago. Although help was sought out, my mother disregarded it. She didn't think it was worth it. On the positive, she was able to cut her drinking down, briefly.

My nan passed away in September, the matriarch. It hit all the family extremely hard. Since then, my mother has maybe spent a week of that sober, not collectively, a day here and there. When I say she drinks, I don't mean the silly, 'let's have a good old time' kind of drunk either. I mean the argumentative, bolshy, arrogant, horrible kind of drunk. Yes, she is grieving the loss of her mum, she's depressed.

The last 11yr have been a big struggle for myself, the stress, emotional and psychological strain. I've sought out all kinds of help for my mum, I've given her a million and one options to better herself, I feel that I have done everything I can possibly do to support and encourage her.

I'm stuck, I no longer know what more I can do. Although I shall never give up on my mum, I need help.

replying to Chloe

I'm only 16 nearly 17 and have been dealing my mums alcoholism since i can remember, its all i have ever known. She has a breakdown when i was 4 and has been drinking since i can remember. I have spent my life begging my mum to get help, researching her symptoms. It has had a huge impact on my mental health negatively, no one should have to go through this.

This isn't nice to hear but one of the hardest lessons i learnt is that when it comes to addicts they have to want to get better, that doesn't mean leave them to it they will need help and encouragement. My mum after years and years finally went to the doctors she heavily suffered the stigma around mental health. My point is you can do everything and anything but it's down to them, my mum had a wake up call she is know in hospital and severely ill as her liver has failed, it was a wake up call.

You need to make sure that you look after yourself because otherwise it will ruin you, it nearly ruined me and has torn my family apart. I understand if that helps.

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