My husband has always been dependent on alcohol to overcome his shyness. We have been married for 13 years and in the early years it never seemed so much of a problem. There would be the odd embarrassment & yes, he would drink, but as we got older it became a bit of a gripe, and after we had our first child it became evident that it was a problem. 6 years on, it’s still a problem. It’s the lies, the worry that he could be drinking while looking after our child. The trust is broken, but I can’t bring myself to leave.
I’m worried about the impact it would have on my son as he’s already been through a lot as his younger brother died. I worry about me not managing as my own mental health is fragile.
I think we may be in a codependent relationship, but I can’t really work our what I get from it.
I just want him to stop, and it sounds so simple, but obviously it isn’t. He’s been drinking heavily the last 4 days and I’ve called him out on it, he says he wants to change but I don’t know if it’s even possible. Please help.