: Share Your Story

Discuss what it's really like with your peers

1 reply

replying to Cdantro

I am happy pal. But im more pissed off knowing i could of stayed in and wanted to. I didnt even want it.

But its not good staying in while yr gf is going out. But ill have accept it.

replying to Danman83

Good attitude pal and well in for getting re focused

2 replies

replying to Danman83

Thanks for your reply danman, it means a lot. I’m pleased to hear you’re back at the gym, I find that helps me too, I think if you’re physically fitter the mind will follow, you will get there what happened is just a glitch. I wish my ex

Bf was as determined as you, I don’t think he’ll do it he’s been on coke for years on and off - more on than off! It’s cost him so much, financially and relationships but he doesn’t want to stop- he carnt do or surely he would at least try, he’s had councilling with rehab and everything ( I think his ex wife made him) btw coke is why she left him, but he still won’t delete contacts etc plus he lives with a dealer, so it’s on tap, I do love him so much it breaks my heart to let him go but I have to or I will go down with him I’m already drinking more than I should which is a bad sign - I need to get back at the gym and knock drink on the head, just don’t know how to go about it, any advice would be appreciated? Sorry didn’t mean to go on it’s just I don’t have anyone to talk to really- Lou ????

replying to Danman83

Dont know why the ??? are there, tried to put an emoji and ??? came up instead- Lou

replying to Danman83

Danman I’m struggling here, can you send me some words of wisdom please- Lou

1 reply

replying to Louise1974

We are in a fix. My husbands friends and partners all do coke and most of his family do one drug or another and in one way or the other. It's surprising how you don't notice these things until they are on your own doorstep ruining your life. (My eyes are wide open nowadays and my ears are cocked) Like you say it's on tap. I don't drink much though, I'm not in the mood for it. I suppose it can either push you one way or the other. It is hard to get yourself out and about what with anxiety and the embarrassment of folk talking. I feel the same. I plan to do things but fail. I cannot go to the gym because folk know the both of us. (We live in a village) I'd love to go back though and I will do if he gets sent down. I am a strong person usually but this has messed me up big time. I have no one I can talk to properly so here helps an awful lot.

We will get through these bad times I'm sure.

2 replies

replying to Danman83

Thanks for your reply it honestly helps me when people get back to me - can I ask why you think he might get sent down ? For what

reason? I live in a close community also and worry about what people think too but I guess thats something you can’t do anything about -people will always think what they think and to be honest most people don’t understand I didn’t before I was in this situation as I’m sure you didn’t too, and probably judged too - I’ve stopped drinking now and feel better for it, it was just a crutch, but not a good one I know. Thank you for replying I really do appreciate it as like you I don’t have anyone to talk to apart from my dad who’s 81 and I don’t think he would understand x Lou x

replying to Danman83

How you doing Danman? Focused and plenty of books to be read?

Please abide by our forum guidlines.

This forum uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.

We use optional analytics cookies to help us improve our site by collecting and reporting anonymous information on how you use it.