: Drugs, alcohol and mental health

Discuss the twin challenges of mental health and substance use

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Homeless son

My son is 21 and currently homeless. He has been using drugs from the age of 13 starting with cannabis and then in the last few years anything that he can get his hands on. He has lived in various supported housing due to poor mental health but due to his chaotic behaviour and violent outbursts he has been evicted many times. He literally lives from moment to moment and doesn’t care about his health as long as he can get high. He is very vulnerable and gets beaten up regularly by people he tries to sell drugs to or buy drugs off. I have to put in firm boundaries and hope that the more uncomfortable he feels the more likely he is to want to make changes. I work in drug and alcohol services as a recovery worker and see my clients that behave exactly the same way as my son and it goes on for years. Pain is a catalyst for change and I refuse to be a buffer for my sons rock bottom. It’s easier said than done and I feel really guilty a lot of the time but I know I am doing the right thing. I hope he will reach out to services that can help him and turn his life around.

replying to Reetareeta

U seem like a decent mum and work hard.. so whats made him go like this if u dont mind me asking?

replying to Reetareeta

Hi,

Thanks for sharing your story. I'm certain you are doing the right thing and hope that your son is able to access help when he's ready.

I hope that with the work you do you probably have a lot of support for yourself around you but if you did want any extra help please contact us at The Icarus Trust. We are a charity supporting family and friends of addicts.

You can contact us on help@icarustrust.org or visit the website www.icarustrust.org

All the best.

replying to Reetareeta

Hi, I’m new on here, my son like yours is homeless and addicted to hard drugs. He’s 35 and it breaks my heart. We have tried everything, I’m frightened to show him love now as he sees this as a weakness .

He constantly blames me, says it s my fault I don’t understand, never helped him... This of course is not true, ive had him live with me, he steals from me, ive even had masked men smash there way in my house and threaten myself and my grandchildren. I just wanted to read somewhere that I’m not the only one,

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