Hi, this is my first time posting. I am the wife of a recovering alcoholic, sober for almost 4 months. I am so very proud of him after spending years seeing him passed out on the sofa, unable to feed himself, hiding wine and vodka bottles all over the place, the lies, the deceit, the aggression, all the things that I am sure families and friends of any addict feel.
For me, I am finding the recovery bit difficult. When he was drinking, I knew his pattern, knew what would come next.
Now, I find I am constantly saying are you ok? Constantly looking for signs of drinking. But most difficult, I just don’t trust him after years of lies. I feel alone and at times bitter. He’s put us in this position yet he gets all the support. I thought life would be easier with a sober husband but at the moment, I am finding it tough. If anyone has any words of wisdom please share and I apologise if this is not the place for this but I don’t know where else to go