Hi all. I’m here about my fiancé, who is drinking and has anxiety issues.
We’ve been together 24 years and we’ve always been really close. He’s such a good man.
He’s always enjoyed a drink and would drink around 4 cans a night in the week and more of a weekend.
Last year, he had a breakdown. This was a result of losing my Dad, a close friend and work stress building up. I also think that work increased the stress/anxiety.
He was off work for 7 months with anxiety and depression. The citalopram helped his depression, but he still got some anxiety. Alcohol didn’t mix well with this medication, so he was told not to drink. He tried shandy’s and you could still tell on a small amount.
Before christmas, he’d gone out in my car for food and broke down. The police stopped and he was over the limit. He got a ban and fine.
His anxiety leading upto the court case was horrid.
He was drunk christmas afternoon and slept all through the meal and presents.
I’ve been finding bottles of rum around the house. He doesn’t even drink much and he’s drunk. He sneaks them in from the shop. We’ve had so many arguments and promises it won’t happen again. His mom even got upset, which hurts him and yet it ends up starting up again.
He’s back at work now and it’s seemed to help and he was more his old self.
I continued to find bottles. I get maybe a few hours with him after he finished work, and then he’s either asleep, acting weird, or had a drink.
The times I’ve been worried that something is wrong with him because he’s acting so strangely.
Now, he’s off work with what’s going in the world. He had to self isolate for a few weeks, and due to my health issues, I stayed with my mom.
The first week, I went home and spoke to him through the window. He looked an absolute wreck. The second week he seems more himself, but he kept watching the news and getting anxiety over his health. He was poorly and had an ambulance due to symptoms, which is obviously worrying being alone and with similar symptoms to covid.
The night before I was due back home, he started having delusions. For three nights, he has psychosis. Delusions, hallucinations you name it, it was terrible. We got no sleep at all and the mental health team said they believed it was alcohol withdrawal as he said he hadn’t drank for three weeks....I’m not convinced, but I can’t say how many days.
He’s now drinking a lot. He’s getting up in the night and coming downstairs to watch the news and drink.
He is anxious over his health and has gotten upset. I’ve never known him raise his voice like he’s been doing.
The Dr gave him zopiclone to help him sleep, and diazepam.
I feel so lost. I’m losing him and I’m starting to feel numb to it all.
It’s like having a child! Al-Anon recommended that I ignore the bottles which is so hard, but a relief in a way. I’ve tried contacting his old counselling team, but they’re closed since the corona. He has a phone call on the 15th from the alcohol team.
I would have left if it wouldn’t have been for him saying he will have help.
I just can’t see it stopping now, I really can’t. If he doesn’t take the help, or doesn’t do as they say, I don’t think I have any choice but to leave and it’ll break both of our hearts. It worries me what he would do without me