: Bereavement

Get support following a drug or alcohol related death

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Recognising alcoholism

I’m so fearful my partner will drink until he has pickled his liver and kidneys.

He drinks a 10 pack of beer every day. The other day he also had a litre bottle of sherry. 2 weeks before that he drank an almost full bottle of Cointreau liqueur both as well as the beer.

On the weekend, almost guaranteed within 15 mins of waking up he asks if we have any beer. He’s out of work at the moment so it’s me that is covering the cost. I know I must be stronger to protect my own finances as it’s so expensive.

The other night at midnight he asked if I could go to the shop for more beer. I went mad and said it’s not unreasonable for me to say no and what sort of man sends their loving partner into the night to do that.

His father was an alcoholic I understand and died at 39 when my partner was 9. So worried for him now and for myself. I know I can’t help him and he has to want to help himself.

Reading your helpful posts where help has sadly not worked makes me want to try harder. But I’m also at the point where I cannot face living my life this way forever with this man. He’s also into coke and weed.

I’m worried I’ll get home one day and find him in a bad way.

Has anyone else been here?

replying to Lamouette

I've been there sadly. Just recently my husband overdose and I barely saved his life.

My husbands father also was an acholic and 4 years ago he got clean, but my husbands upbringing was rough and may have contributed to his own addiction.

My husband just recently started to struggle with alcohol abuse ( I myself found driving around at 11pm at night looking for him as he tried to stumble to the liquor store).

This past week his alcohol addiction caused him to relapse on heroin where he almost died.

He always convinced me he had the problem under control and not to tell his family as it would break him.

Long story short, his family and my family all know now and it is like a weight lifted off of my chest. His family helped me get into a rehab and have been my support system through this.

I suggest you ask his family and your family for help. The more support you have the easier it is to help him. You are not alone and don't forget that.

I wish you all the luck and hopefully he get help he needs

replying to Lamouette

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During the path to recovery, the patient may develop a guilty consciousness about the ways he/she have led the life. There may well be several scenarios where they would be blaming themselves for the part. IN fact, the frustration build up may take such an ugly shape that they may try to end their lives. That’s why a reputed rehab center Indianapolis would always try to use different motivation programs and activities to keep the patient engaged while restricting them from committing any fatal mistakes with their lives.

replying to Lamouette

I'm too going through this. My husband will have 2 bottles of wine at 8am when shops open on his days off from work.

He will go sleep then go up for another one when he wakes up.

Have tea then goes up for a further 2.

If this happens on Sundays which mostly it does he phones in sick on Mondays.

I even been ask to get wine on school run.

My marriage was never like this before.. however always has had a drink issue and never drank first 3 years of being together. Now been together 10 yrs

He's not a nice drunk .... I get called fat lazy he can do better.

When I get very angry and try to talk to him about his drinking I get called a drama queen.

I have a son who has also asked him to stop drinking he's only 6. My 6 year old has called police before now.

I really do want to just leave and I'm only staying cos when he's sober he's wonderful however sober is a thing of the past.

How do I get him to leave he's so abusive with drink , I've been pushed punch.

I also however do not want the father of my child to be homeless

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