I don’t really even know where to start if I am honest. Last year my eldest brother who is 32 tried to kill himself 3 times, each time he was saved (1 by a member of the public, 1 by a police officer and 3rd he was in a induced coma and survived). He has a gambling and cocaine addiction and is in debt of over 50k. He is in a really good job being 1 of the directors of a big company. He has a very toxic relationship with his girlfriend who stops him seeing his kids and ex wife. He has ended up arrested many time because of this.
Anyway fast forward to last week, my dad who was 72 took unwell with dehydration and was taken into hospital, they said he has pneumonia and liver damage. He also was a alcoholic and hid if from us all for a few years, he was never bad on drink but ultimately it caused his liver to fail. He then went into multiple organ failure and died last Saturday with my mum holding him in her arms. They were together for 42 years.
Since then my eldest brother was great for 3 days, telling my mum he would pay for the funeral and stuff, not to worry etc. However now it’s D day he has turned nasty, borrowed £500 from my other brother to pay off a coke dealer the day before he got paid. My brother has not yet had his money back. He is drinking really badly, taking coke and being really horrible. He sent me multiple messaged of abuse yesterday for nothing, that I was a bitch, a liar etc. I’m yet to understand why he thinks these things. He is trying for some reason to turn my mum and brothers against me. The only thing I can think of is that I am remaining strong for my mum, and I have paid for most of the funeral. Maybe he is jealous, maybe his pride is hurt as he is now meant to be ‘head of the family’ and me being the only girl and the youngest (I’m 27) has stood up and done the things he said he was going to do.
Any advice is welcome on how to deal with this situation at such a hard time, I am trying to keep it altogether for my mum and twin brother, but I am so close to exploding.
Sorry for the long story and rant, just a bit lost right now. Thanks