Hi, it’s my first time on here and I just want a bit of advice as I feel like I’m going mad. I’ve been married to my husband for 12 years, a few years ago we had a shocking family bereavement and my husband instead of supporting his family chose to take coke and had a few pshycotic episodes where I had no other option than to call the police, he thought they were all in fancy dress and imposters, they nearly sectioned him but the ambulance took him to hospital until he calmed down, similar situations like that happened over the course of the year until I eventually threw him out. He stayed away for about 6 months and to this day every time we have a row he said what kind of a wife am I making him go and live in a bedsit, he says I sold him down the river.
He came back home and everything has been good for the past year but recently I’ve noticed tell tale signs but he is so manipulative and secretive, yesterday I confronted him he came home from work on a Saturday morning completely off his box, he said he lost money in the betting office and that made him have a panic attack. I know he had taken drugs it was clear to see, my daughter was upstairs and because I confronted him he accused me of getting the kids involved and it’s something I should keep between just me and him. Since then he hasn’t spoken to me as if I’m the one that’s done something wrong. I told him today that I’m moving into the spare room as he won’t leave and he said I’m deluded if I think he has a drug problem. I can’t work out how if someone has done something wrong they can turn the situation round to making me think I’ve done something wrong by confronting him. I said to him today, you came home yesterday out of your nut with our kids here and that’s ok is it, his answer “it is what it is” so I guess and admission. How can you help someone that doesn’t think they have a problem.