: Drugs, alcohol and mental health

Discuss the twin challenges of mental health and substance use

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Cocaine addiction. Is there a light at the end of the tunnel?

I have been with my partner for almost 2 years & a few months ago we moved into our first home together. I was aware of his cocaine addiction fairly early on in the relationship but didn't realise how much it was consume our lives.

Earlier on in the relationship he would disappear all evening/night and I wouldn't hear from him at all. He wouldn't answer texts or phone calls. And then would tell me he was "sleeping". He had told me at this point that he once had an addiction but was clean. I even defended him when he told me his parents thought he was relapsing. In the next couple of months I developed a close relationship with his mum & she broke down one evening and told me he is using & even after a 6 week stint in rehab (before we met) never really stopped.

She decided she couldn't cope anymore or help him so she kicked him out of the house. I was so inlove that I allowed him to come move in with me. This was when I started to witness the extent of his addiction.. he would come home after disappearing for hours suffering from severe psychosis & would be frantically pacing the house for hours. To witness this absolutely tore me apart.

He refused rehab again because he claims if it didn't work the first time that there's no point. He started therapy but only had 3 sessions and said it wasn't helping. I was at a loss.

He started exercising & really looking after himself after I told him I was at breaking & he was clean for 2 months. A house come up that we both loved & he said we should go for it ..

I expressed my concern about his addiction & he agreed that I'd be in full control of the finances so he wouldn't have access to money for cocaine. We moved in. And for another month he was clean and doing well..

And then he relapsed. Id come home from work and sometimes he wouldn't be home. Other times he would be pacing around the house due to psychosis.

His recently agreed to try therapy again. And up until last week was 5 weeks clean.

Can therapy alone really help him?! His never been abusive or horrible to me whilst using. He uses so much that I don't think he even realises I'm there half the time.

I just need to know that I'm not in a never ending cycle. I need to know that therapy can help him beat this? :(

replying to S1993ks

Hello, I totally sympathise with your story, I am currently going through exactly the same with my partner and I’m at a total loss :( I love him more than anything but I just don’t know where to start, he is the most loving person but this rules his life, he is in debt up to his eyeballs and just stays in that cycle, have you managed to find any support anywhere?? Sending you lots of support xx

replying to S1993ks

It's not a nice situation to be in when you love someone and want the best for them. I really do feel for you. I know exactly how you feel. Luckily I think (HOPE) my partner has realised he needs the help & things are improving. It's not an easy road.

I haven't found much support, no. :(


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