Hi I’m a new one on this site and so glad I’ve found it. I have read many threads tonight with tears streaming down my face, because there sad and because there is so much pain and heartache associated with drug addiction.
My son is 38 and has been using coccain onn and off for many years. His marriage failed 5 years ago and long term relationship ended about 2 months ago so he has been living with me and my husband, his step dad.
He was in the Royal Marines and did tours in Afghan which is where I thought the problems arose from but now I’m not so sure, I believe, as has been said in many posts, the power of addiction has no boundaries.
My heart aches today as he got wasted yesterday and I haven’t seen him since. I’ve asked him to find somewhere else to live but that also breaks my heart.
We have tried veteran support as well as NHS support but he never finishes the process of getting professional help. My husband is a GP and we have both tried so hard to support him in a positive way and encouraging him to make the right choices, but it’s all failed again.
He has at worst spent £6000 pounds in one week after getting some inheritance. And more recently had a binge week and sold his motorcycle.... the list goes on and on
I feel sure he wants to be free from this poisonous addiction and in fact asked us for £5,500 today to pay for rehab however we know that he is constantly looking for someone or something to’fix’ him instead of helping himself maintain the right choices.
Like others have said we are a warm loving family but his sister doesn’t want anything todo with him anymore and as a mother my pain and suffering continues.
Thank you for reading my post and any advice is always gratefully received especially about asking him to leave ....