My partner is an alcoholic. We were together when we were young and have stayed in touch. Just over 20 years later we are back together and I love him to bits. He has had a lot of trauma, both childhood and beyond and has just started counselling for this, which is really brave. He isn’t currently working so I am carrying everything the moment (he lives with me), and he is an alcoholic. When we got back together he was drinking all day every day. We had a discussion and I told him I couldn’t live like this and he promised to stop. This was 25th July. He had one major relapse which almost broke us but he promised it wouldn’t happen again, then yesterday he had to go for an appointment whilst I was at work (I work long days), met up with his friend and adult children and got very drunk.
Am I expecting too much? I feel really hurt and let down. And bloody angry that while I’m at work in a really stressful job to pay all the bills, he takes it as an opportunity to go and drink. And I come home to him laying on the sofa and being really belligerent. Will this get any better or am I holding onto false hope? Or am I just expecting far too much?