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This sounds very harsh. But you need to leave him. You have done all you can. He won’t change unless he wants to. Someone said those exact words to me 68 days ago and I was still in turmoil and didn’t know what to do. Instead days after this guy said that I paid for him to have private rehab. One week in and we separated- he blamed me for his cocaine use. He even admitted he did it on our wedding day 7 years ago, still blaming me. Saying I was a nag, trying to control his drink. I didn’t even know he was taking cocaine until this year. He has been doing it for the past 11 years and only this year he became addicted to it taking £500 per day. He even tried to commit suicide a few times. There were times when I would drive around at midnight looking for him. I reported him as a missing person twice. I tried to get him sectioned. Nothing worked and it went on for 5 months. I questioned whether it really was me and was I that bad to live with? I couldn’t eat, couldn’t sleep and now I’m on anxiety tablets full time because my panic attacks were getting out of control. Now he is a very small part of my life. He got out of rehab. Told me he wasn’t paying me a penny back of the £10,000 He took my car He now refuses to pay child maintenance and half the bills. He rarely asks about our 9 year child He stays in different hotels each week and plays golf whenever he feels like it. He definitely got a whole new life and I’m left picking up the broken heart of our son, caring for two dogs, the terrible mess he left our house in when he was trying to renovate it whilst he was high (he is a builder) He has therapy four times a week including NA AA, counselling and aftercare from his private rehab centre, and me and our son, nothing. Don’t get me wrong, I’m glad he isn’t dead and I think he isn’t using anymore, But it shows who or what they can become. If I could re-do it all again - I would Have packed my bags the day he told me and I would never have had any contact with him ever again. I wish you the beat of luck But please put yourself first He clearly has no intentions of changing

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