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Posts by Dfh


33 posts in 14 threads

Still going strong after my lapse 5 week ago! by

I really couldn't be assed doing all that again if I'm honest, I can't even bring myself to drink much - alcohol leads to other idiotic behaviour and I know it's not what I want. Dont get me wrong i have great memories from my party days, but I'd rather be clear headed and still have money in my pocket the next day and be able to have a good time with my kids. I've told myself I've grown out of stupid stuff!! I've not done stupid stuff for nearly 3 years now and I don't feel like I've missed out on anything. I still get the odd impulse but I deal with it. Life's for living but not for playing Russian roulette with. Kids come first all day long and no way am I going to take risks that affect them.

Need help by

Hi, Have you thought about asking your gp to refer you to pain therapy? You are in actual pain so it wouldn't be beneficial for you to not have pain relief however codeine is not a viable long term pain relief because of the addiction (your liver creates morphine from the codeine) so you would need specialist pain therapy to find something more suitable. This is absolutely something that can be resolved, you just need access to the right help. Speak to your gp, they would (should) never dismiss your pain or your fears and wouldn't leave you with no pain relief at all. Hope you get this sorted out.

by Pudding

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Any advice at all by

Hi, sorry your sister is in this situation. I think there are links to support on the home page for this website. Usually local councils have outreach services for families of addicts, try under the carers section. My local council has one called CASH. There will be something close to her it's just finding it that's a bit tricky! If you are in Lancashire it will be CASH. Google it and it will at least give you an idea of what to look for. In the meantime your sister needs to step away from her partners chaos. She doesn't need the stress. I've been in her position a few times, including with a new baby and no job. I'm still in that position but I have taken a step back. I'm glad she has you, you sound like a fab support. I'm on here everyday if you need anymore help xx

by DNAnon

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Struggling by

I'm glad I can help just by listening to you. I have been through so many addictions with my husband, he is still battling everyday but he has some control back. He is still on a programme for opiate addiction and he is currently trying to keep on top of a cocaine addiction hence why I'm on here. Yes inspire do keep everything confidential. From what I've experienced from my husband's interactions with them the don't judge and are there for the long haul. My husband relapsed a few times and each time they were there to get him back on track and never judged him. They are aware we have 3 children and have never involved anyone else. I guess they see that he is actively seeking help plus they have contact with him regularly so they know all is well. Honestly it's the best thing to do. Our gp wasn't helpful at all, he just told us to split up basically. Not helpful at all! Are u in Lancashire? Please don't feel ashamed, lots of people get/have addictions and lots of people get through it. Everyone is different. I'm sure you are a fantastic parent and I can tell you love your children more than life. You are seeking help so you can ensure you are there for them to see them grow. You will get there. Let me know how you get on, I will keep checking in to make sure you are ok :) xx

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My Codeine problem by

Unlikely - I doo see where your coming from regarding GPs, we also had an unpleasant experience with them. In the end my husband spoke to a local drug dependency charity/care giver. They assigned him a key worker who was able to get him access to a doctor who works alongside them and was able to give prescriptions without prejudice. With their help he got off the codeine and also managed it so he was able to kick both the opioid and codeine addiction safely. The care provider was able to keep his medical stuff separate from gp records too. Honestly, I do not know where people would get help from if it wasn't for the charity/outreach because the general GP service is shocking. I was told basically to walk away from my marriage as nothing could be done. Just like that. Google local services, get a feel for what help is there. If it's any help and your in Lancashire then Inspire and CASH is the help for this area. Maybe Google Inspire and see what they do so you know what you are looking for. Good luck and I really wish you all the best. If I can be of anymore assistance please just ask.

My life right now by

Luckily I'm financially dependant. He always pays back any money he borrows and to be honest it's more hassle to not lend him. I'm finding this new approach much less stressful and now I can see he's having to make changes because I'm not his safety net from outsiders seeing what is going on. I used to cover his ass constantly but now I've taken a backseat he is having to change. In my mind I've always helped because that showed I cared if that makes sense. Now I see it differently, I still care but I need to stop letting it take over my life and I need to look after myself. I will remain his support when he needs and the non addict which helps him stay clean but I can't do anymore. I can't tell him what to do. I can only encourage the right steps and ignore the chaos. Xx