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If he's gonna stop he had to face demons and be true to himself. Took me to lose absolutely everything to stop and I'm clean. My ex wife gave me chance after chance and that wasn't enough for me to stop. Your husband will love you but it's not enough for him to stop. My only experience is hitting rock bottom and that was enough for me to say no more i don't want this life anymore and I did it. 22 attempts to quit before this one and this one is successful. I've accepted to myself that I have to have a drug free life forever and that I will never go through what I went through ever again. It's just one of them things but getting off it was the biggest mountain I climbed in my life. I won't even have a bet and won't engage in anything that is addictive. You have to make a choice. He won't come off it nor will anyone till they are completely ready themselves...

Now is the best time to stop reason being:- I used to be triggered by my old environment where I used to live. Now am away I don't get triggers. But it's honestly the best time so you don't create a habit in your new house. Keep going and don't get complacent aim for three weeks. Then five then ten..if you do ten you will be free it's easy from there trust me

Or you can sign up to a local help centre. Stick to the action plan they set you for 12 weeks and then they will pay for rehab for you for free?

Hi libertas, Thanks for the reply I will never become complacent again that life is totally behind me. I've had to face demons and defeat them to get where I am. I will never out myself through that 10 weeks of anxiety and withdraw ever again. The constant overthinking and panic attacks and not being able to think clearly. And yes I do have a challenge. I think it must be hard for her because she probably expected me to be sat somewhere in a ditch with no money off my face... When in fact I've saved money got two cars, got new jobs and doing college and am saving for a mortgage (once my divorce goes through) Must be hard for her to take I understand that bit. Hopefully it does calm down though

Hope things are going better for you

Yes I was diagnosed when I was 9 then rediagnosed as an adult. In fact alot of articles state that roughly 70% of people with ADHD find comfort in recreational drugs mainly cocaine as it calms them instead of stimulate... It's a weird one actually

How are things going??? hope you have managed to get a solution

In a nut shell no he can't choose you over drugs. My ex wife said this to me in November its drugs or me. She's now an ex wife... I'm clean now but too little to late for me. Hope you get everything sorted and things start to get better for you I really do. An addict will always usually choose the drug.

This was me back in March after 10 years of use. Typical behaviour stuck in a cycle. If he wants to stop he needs to write a plan out. Get active. To do this he needs to go a week without use. Plenty of fruit juice and multi vitamins. The next 10 weeks of his life will be held his behaviour will be erratic. The depression gets worse and anxiety goes through the roof. If he's adamant about doing it you need to get him active and he needs to want to stop. If he has debts with dealers make him pay them but you pass the money over so he doesn't pick anymore up. It's hard to do it really is but the cycle needs breaking. If he can get to 14 days with no use it becomes so easy to do but in all honesty what your telling me he isn't ready to stop yet so you need to make a decision. Only he can help himself no one can drag him out it's all on him.

So glad to see he's doing well. I'm reading my posts back when I was at day 14. I'm at day 105 now 😆 and yes everything has changed my attitude. My sex drive. My ambition. My depression has gone and am happy. Good luck with everything I'm really happy for you