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Posts by Februarymarie

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Theresa by

I feel the same with my son. It’s a super hard balance to keep your distance from them in their bad times and still let them know you love them. I’m trying to do that right now while he’s not sober, but I must admit in all these long years of his addiction I’ve been everywhere in my emotions with him- anger, fear, disgust, anguish, sorrow. I think it’s okay that your daughter remembers her true brother. I remember when husband died, I idolized him as perfect, which was so untrue, he was an alcoholic too, and unfaithful. It was my sister who brought me back to reality. Over time, I remembered him as he was, flaws and all. Maybe your daughter will get there too. Love to you all.. ♥️

by JEM

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My heart is broken again, 12 years of an addicted son by

Hi cornwallmother2020. I've been thinking of you. You were one of the very first people to reach out to me about my alcoholic son, and I really appreciated that. Things haven't been great with him these past couple of years. He went to the hospital to get sober a couple of weeks ago and I hope he still is. Unfortunately, things have gotten so bad with him when he drinks, that he's crazy and mean when he does and I have had to really distance myself from him pretty significantly. I've thought about you and I hope that your son is doing well and that you are doing well too. ❤

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I've Finally Had To Let Go of My Adult Alcoholic Son by

Thank you Libertas- your message means a lot. ( And you too, Lindyloo). This has been about a 10 year+ battle with him, with many hard things along the way that I thought for sure would have been his bottom. I am at the place where I know that I have done all I can (and probably too much at times). It's very hard having zero control- he knows how much I love him. I know I must let go and live my life- I'm determined to enjoy the wonderful things I have in my life. It takes work. I'm hoping for that miracle, but not expecting it. And even if he found a way to live sober, there would be a lot of work to do to heal all of us. But, for now, I'll just live for the day. ❤

My adult son is addicted to alcohol and cocaine by

Update: he just texted me and said that they kept him in the hospital because his pulse kept racing. I guess he thinks I'm a fool, because I'm pretty sure you don't stay in the hospital for 5 days with a racing pulse. I asked him what prompted him to go to the hospital in the first place, and now he's gone silent. I'm sure he's lying because he's embarrassed or ashamed or is just lying to cover up what's going on- none of which is good... makes me cry.

by Jenny

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Emotionally drained and frustrated by

Update: he just texted me and said that they kept him in the hospital because his pulse kept racing. I guess he thinks I'm a fool, because I'm pretty sure you don't stay in the hospital for 5 days with a racing pulse. I asked him what prompted him to go to the hospital in the first place, and now he's gone silent. I'm sure he's lying because he's embarrassed or ashamed or is just lying to cover up what's going on- none of which is good... makes me cry.

Grief by

Hello Harleyjane- your story of your son is my story with my son except that his is alcohol. You can read my story : Mother of Adult Alcoholic Son" a couple of weeks ago. I too, love, hate, and my son. It's also down to just me as his support as he's pushed all of his family away, it's not something I really want. It's exhausting. And he's not really even talking to me that much. When he drinks, he lashes out at me and then I have to back off for a while. And yet, despite that- I still miss him! It's craziness! Nothing I do or say changes anything. It's so lonely where we are. People look at us and think, "Just get rid of them in your life!" I wish I could sometimes, but that would make me miserable too. I've lost the son I knew too. The grief is so painful. I can't even look at pictures of him when he was younger- I just sob. When glimpses of my son come out, it's so hard. You want to hope, but you know it just goes the same way it always does with him going back to alcohol. I can't even fathom that this could be how the rest of my life is, this pain. I thought you raised your kids, and sometimes it's not easy, and then you have some peace and satisfaction later in life with them grown and living their own lives. At least that's how it looks for many people I know and that makes me sad too. Hopefully we can all support one another. xoxo

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