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Posts by Hox

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Cocaine husband I need some advice :-( by

Yes it is painful. I have lost two dress sizes, folk say I look good, but its the stress not a diet or healthy eating. They are none the wiser. The stress is etched in my face though I am feeling older. It has not been good for you, he's lying it isn't your fault he has to blame someone. I also have the bloody tissues and numerous other ailments that are connected to cocaine but it doesn't register. It is a miserable existence.

Lonely in my home by

I'm the wife of a cocaine and alcohol abuser. I feel alone too. How can anyone understand what we are going through if they haven't been through it themselves. Before this I would never have thought this could happen to anyone. I was naive. Mine is fourteen years with no children. No intimacy and he has no emotions left. My husband says he hasn't got a problem, I suppose he hasn't really because he is ok in his coke addled brain. Exhausted here, sorry to be of no use. Just to let you know you are now not alone.

by Jacks

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My addiction has caused my wife’s depression by

I don't think leaving would help matters. It would seem like you are running away from your responsibilities and they are toward your wife and child and of course yourself. I'm in the same boat. I go to work and break down crying. No one knows what I'm going through. Just that I'm not the happy person I used to be. The people at work would not believe me if I told them as they knew how close my husband and I were, so I put on a mask and hide as much as possible. Hoping life will get better. I do the same to our mutual friends and family, mask on and excuses made. Help yourself, you need to succeed then your wife will not be anxious and hopefully return to near normal. I'm saying this because if my husband came in now, gave me a hug and started to behave how he used to toward me I could start healing myself. I know I could never be the same person he married but I would be happy if I could become half the person I used to be. I'm tired, exhausted and so unhappy. The damage has been done so far but it is worth trying to get some more treasured memories.

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Anxiety over partners addiction by

I wish my husband was the man I married. He could say no to the drink and cocaine at not bother with it. He never craved going out and I was never worried or anxious when he did. I always knew he'd be back and would look after the others that were using and drinking making sure they got home. Now over the last six to seven months I'm always anxious. When he goes out, when he stays in, when I go to work, when I leave the house and go to the shop. I can't support my husband because he genuinely feels he hasn't got a problem. If he did I would be there to support him through thick and thin. His cousin is on the coke all day and everyday. He talks about him saying he doesn't know why he does it. But he does more than enough o be considered an addict himself. We wanted a family but it's probably best now that we couldn't. I'm anxious now, but imagine if we had had children. It's bad enough the way he treats me. I go from loving him to hating him for what he's doing to us.

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Genuine drug problem? by

Yes it's a genuine drug problem. My husband is the same now, (for the last six months) going out all hours drinking and when he has a drink he has cocaine. He doesn't do it without the drink. Three times he goes out per week and comes back the following day in a state. I feel the friends he associates with are a cause of the problem, then the alcohol and finally the cocaine. But at the end of the day my husband can say no to going out. No to the drink and no to the cocaine. He used to.