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Hi James, Thanks for posting. You're right it does help to share problems. I can understand how your dad's drinking has put such a strain on you and your mum and I can see how worried you are about how this is affecting your mum, as well as yourself no doubt. I see that you have tried different things which haven't worked for you, and I wonder whether you would like to contact us at The Icarus Trust. We are a charity that provides support for people that are going through similar things to you, dealing with a family member's addiction. We have specially trained, experienced people that you and your mum could be put in touch with, and may be talking to one of them would help you to decide how you go on from here. You can contact us on help@icarustrust.org or visit the website www.icarustrust.org All the best to you.

Hi Dkf, Thanks for sharing your story. It's good to read that your husband has been honest with his GP and is getting some help. You sound an incredibly strong person but you may like to know about the charity I work for. We are called The Icarus Trust and our purpose is to support people like yourself, who are having to deal with a partner's addiction. You obviously have lots of questions you want answered so you might like to contact us and be put in touch with one of our experienced trained people. They would listen, answer some of your questions and help you to know what other help might be available locally to you. You can contact us on help@icarustrust.org or visit the website www.icarustrust.org I hope things are still improving for you both. All the best to you.

Hi Lil, Thanks for posting. I'm so sorry that you are living through this nightmare of your husband's addiction to cocaine. I can see why you say that it feels like someone else's life. You definitely are not alone in how you feel. I work for The Icarus Trust which is a charity set up to support people like yourself. We work with many people who are living with the impact of a family member's addiction. Sadly your husband won't able to get help until he admits that he needs it but maybe you could do with some support for yourself. If you contact us we can put you in touch with one of our trained people, who would listen to you and try to help you find a way ahead. You can contact us on help@icarustrust.org or visit the website www.icarustrust.org I hope that this helps. All the best.

Hi Janette, I'm sorry to read your post and can understand how difficult things are for you with your partner's drug habit. It is a lonely place to be especially if you can't talk to your family. This site is great as you can speak to others on line who are in the same boat. If you would like some more support for yourself, the charity I work for would be able to offer you help. We are called The Icarus Trust and, if you contact us, you could be assigned to one of our trained and experienced people. They would understand what you are dealing with and provide you with support as well as letting you know what other help there might be local to you. You can contact us on help@icarustrust.org or visit the website www.icarustrust.org I hope that you get some support and things work out for you.

Hi, Thank you for posting and sharing your story. I can understand that you feel at the end of your tether, as dealing with your wife's alcohol and prescription drug addiction must be very stressful and emotionally draining. You sound like you could do with some help for yourself, so maybe you would like to contact us at The Icarus Trust. We are a charity that supports those people who are living with the impact of the addiction of a family member or friend. if you contact us we would put you in touch with one of our experienced and trained people. You could talk with them which may help you to see a way ahead. You can contact us on help@icarustrust.org or visit the website www.icarustrust.org I hope that this helps. Good luck!

Hi You sound like a really strong support for your girlfriend, who has obviously had such a very tough life, as well as her children. It's good that she is beginning to access therapy from the NHS but I'm sorry that you are in such a difficult situation and have no one who can support you. I work for a charity called The Icarus Trust that provides support for families and friends of people with addictive behaviours. We know that this is very difficult so we provide a service called 'Family Friends'. These are a team of trained and experienced people that you could talk with if you make contact with us. They may help you to understand what is happening, to answer some of your questions, help and signpost you to what other help is available. You can contact us on help@icarustrust.org or visit the website www.icarustrust.org I hope that this helps and that you are able to get some support. Good luck.

Hi, Thanks for sharing your story. I'm certain you are doing the right thing and hope that your son is able to access help when he's ready. I hope that with the work you do you probably have a lot of support for yourself around you but if you did want any extra help please contact us at The Icarus Trust. We are a charity supporting family and friends of addicts. You can contact us on help@icarustrust.org or visit the website www.icarustrust.org All the best.

Thanks for being so brave and sharing your story which I'm sure will help lots of people. I really wish you luck completing your tapering and hope that you can start to do all those things that you want to do next. All the very best. Good luck.

Hi Dfh, So sorry to read your post and see how hard things are for you . I'm glad that you have a good friend that you can turn to and the people on this site are really supportive because it does help to talk. You must have to stay so strong to be able to provide for your family as well as support your partner but, as you say, that is very draining. So I was wondering if you would like some help for yourself. If so please contact us at The Icarus trust. We are a charity that provides support for people going through what you are, having to deal with a family member's addiction. We have a team of people who are trained and experienced and you be assigned to one of them if you make contact. Talking with them might help you see a way forward. You can contact us on help@icarustrust.org or visit the website www.icarustrust.org All the best.

Hi Mikeyb Thanks for sharing so powerfully how you feel about drugs. I hope you have the support which you deserve. Take care and good luck.