Confusion by jfsHi Jfs I'm sorry that things are so difficult for you and can feel how much your relative's addiction affects your own well being. If you think it would be helpful please contact us at The Icarus Trust. We are a charity that provides support for people going through similar situations to yourself. You could be put in touch with one of our experienced people who might be able to help you move forward. Please contact Icarus Trust on email@example.com or visit our website www.icarustrust.org All the best to you.