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Posts by Lindyloo

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Theresa by

Hi Georgie, Just hang in there, I've also been where you are. Their lives with addiction just sucks the life out of you. I always have to remind myself- that's not my son talking- it's the addiction. Your son is still there, but it takes a lot of courage, strength and determination to get clean. He also has to be the one to seek support- they won't be told while this addiction has a hold of them. Please try not to let it consume you as it does him. Take care of yourself, try to find pleasure in the little things. Let your son know that you love him but hate what the addiction is doing to him. Please stay strong, think positive and have faith. Always here to chat or vent Lx ❤

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Help for my Brother by

Hi sisterindistress, Welcome to the forum, everyone here has a loved one who has addictions and also some people in recovery offering support and advice. Thank you for sharing your story. I know this must be very hard for you. I know adfam homepage offer advice and counselling also Drugfam is available for support. Maybe they could assist you? Living with a person who has an addiction is a nightmare. We went through the same with my son since he was 14. He had alcohol and cocaine addictions. I know about the aggressive and selfish behaviour, waiting for the next bad thing to happen. Until he realises he has a problem and seeks help, it's a very tricky situation to make them do something they don't want to do. It's also difficult to reason with someone who has an addiction or mental health issues. In the meantime, seek help for yourself, look after your own health and well-being. My son is currently 7 months clean, with help from AA and CA groups and meetings. Take care ❤ Lx

Seeking help desperately by

Hi Charlie, welcome to the forum, everyone here has a loved one who has addictions and also some people in recovery offering support and advice. Thank you for sharing your story, I think this is the first step you have taken. To admit that the addiction has taken over your live and seeking help. If you scroll back a bit and read Danman83 posts, he is a person in recovery offering support and advice. My son is currently 7 months clean, and only managed this through joining CA and AA meetings. He says it's the only thing that works, you meet others in the same situation, people who have been clean for years all offering support. Keep posting here and let us know how you're doing. Stay strong my friend, people care. Lx

My husband and cocaine by

Hi RedFox, he was ready to lose his job, no job = no flat=no car= no money to clear mountain of debt. He wasn't attending work, hanging with gf who was negative influence ie drinks, drugs, mental health issues. Thankfully, they parted, we helped with the debt, he joined AA and CA groups. He has relapsed a few times but this is the longest spell now. He can't drink alcohol anymore or hang out with his regular friends or this will trigger him. It's complete abstinence from booze. He told me he needed to know he was loved, but only hate what trouble the addiction was causing. You have to love them unconditionally, but at the same time let them know that some situations are unacceptable. Boundaries I guess. Every day is a battle for them, its so hard stopping this evil drug. But what's the alternative? I pray every day there gets the strength to get through it. Sending you hugs and prayers, Lx ❤

by Redfox20

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How do i seek help? by

Hi rikrota, welcome to the forum. There are a lot of people here who have loved ones with addictions and some people in recovery too offering support and advice. I am so sorry to hear that you are going through a difficult time just now. My son has cocaine and alcohol addictions. He is 29 but when he was a teen he partied way too hard than his friends. I didn't realise it at the time but he was mixing drugs with alcohol. He's told me now he did it because it made him feel more confident. Unfortunately he got addicted and he also has an addictive personality so he couldn't stop when all his friends could ! I would urge you to seek help, you are so young and I would hate for you to experience what my son has been through. Adfam has a homepage with counselling service also the Icarus trust. Is there someone you could trust or confide in? As a parent I would want to know that my child is struggling. Please think about telling your family how you feel. They would hate to know that you have these fears and anxieties. There are coping strategies to deal with these without taking drugs or alcohol. This only makes matters worse. Please seek help and support as soon as possible. Let us know here how you are doing. Take care, Lx ❤

Do wives come back??? by

Hi Jack, welcome to the forum, everyone here has a loved one who has addictions and also some people in recovery offering support and advice. Congratulations on seeking help and being sober for 2 months! That's great. I'm the mother of a 29yr son who has alcohol and cocaine addictions. Through AA and CA support, he's been clean for 6 + months. I know it's been a really difficult journey for him, and every day is like a battle. I realise that I'm in a different situation because I'm the mum affected not the wife, but it's kind of similar. It's so much easier to be around him, he's more thoughtful, apologetic if he gets angry, he physically looks better. Perhaps if you're wife sees these small changes, she will be more forgiving. If you're doing the 12 steps, you have to seek forgiveness from people you hurt while drinking. It may take a bit time and patience, but there may still be a chance for you both. Keep looking after yourself, spend time with your family, find a hobby you enjoy. Keep going to the meetings, some of these groups organise big events all up and down the country and overseas. Check them out, it'll give you something to look forward to. My son has made some good friends through the fellowship. My son has anxiety and depression, but he has coping strategies now. Things will get better for you Jack, it will just take a bit time. Keep posting here, let us know how you're doing. Stay strong 💪 Lx

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Teen Son by

Hi Joanie, Hope you're doing okay. My son also has an addictive nature, whatever he does, it's 100%. I believe many people with addictions have mental health issues, ie ADHD, OCD . Your son is like mine, a grown man, making there own choices, right or wrong. It's very hard to stand back and watch them make mistakes and destroy their lives. But as long as they know we love them, but can't let the addiction take over. It's easier to support them if they're trying a bit. Stay strong Lx ❤

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Is taking cocaine once or twice a week an addiction? by

My son has been addicted to alcohol and cocaine for 10 + years. Only in the last 2 years has he admitted it was a problem and wanted help. He's had a few relapses but currently over 6 months clean. Seeing what it does to a family, it is not a life I would choose for anyone. You're not being harsh, he needs to kick this evil drug into touch for you to have a healthy, happy relationship. It's only my opinion Zoe, but I'd think very carefully before he puts that ring on your finger. Lx

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