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Posts by Lindyloo


673 posts in 220 threads

Hope someone can help me I need to stop stop this dam drug by

Hi Just Welcome to the forum, please stay strong, confide in someone who can support you. If it's cocaine, join CA groups or Narcotics Anonymous. These guys are so supportive and helpful. They totally understand as many are in recovery and know how you feel. My son has alcohol and cocaine addictions and thanks to them and and a whole lot of willpower, he's over 1 year clean. You can do this too Just. Read Danman83 and Jamesb posts, they are both guys in recovery who post here . In the meantime, take care of yourself, the best you can. Lx ❤️

Out of ideas by

Hi Dasey, welcome to the forum and thank you for sharing your story here. I felt I had to respond to you, as this story resonates with me and the way my son behaved while addicted to alcohol and cocaine. ( the alcohol triggers the need for cocaine) I joined the Theresa thread here, who are all mums with sons with addictions. Everyone is so supportive and understanding. I was able to share my story with them when I felt I couldn't talk to anyone I knew. The adfam homepage offer advice and support also Drugfam and the Icarus trust posts here too. One thing I've learned is that you cannot force them to seek help, it has to be THEIR decision. Please take time out for yourself- this behaviour can consume a family. Please try to stay strong. Read Danman83 and Jamesb posts who are in recovery and offer great advice from their perspective. My 29yr son reached out for help 2/3 yrs ago- through CA and AA groups, he is currently 1 yr free of drugs and alcohol. It's been a rocky ride , and every day is a battle for them, but so worth it. Take care Dasey, and stay strong. Lx ❤️

Parent and excessive drinking by

Hi Megan Welcome to the forum, everyone here has a loved one with addictions and also some people in recovery offering support and advice. Thank you for sharing your story , I'm so sorry to hear that you are going through a difficult time with your mum. Addiction is a horrible illness - it turns your loved one into people you don't know. Makes them selfish and nasty- especially to those closest. My 29yr son has alcohol and cocaine addictions- when it was at it's worst, I felt was mourning the loss of the son I had- before Addiction. Its so very sad. Until they themselves realise they want help and support - you cannot force them into it. Fortunately my son came to us just before he was about to lose everything. He joined AA and CA groups and attends regular meetings. He worked the 12 step program and he is currently 1 yr clean. I wanted you to know that there's light at the end of the tunnel . Drugfam , Icarus Trust and the Adfam homepage also offer support and advice. In the meantime, please look after your own health and well-being. Take care Megan Lx ❤️

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My addiction to cocaine by

Hi Kezz, welcome to the forum and thank you for sharing your story. I'm so sorry to read that you have lost family members through addiction and suicide. Do you have anyone close to talk to that aren't using? My son is almost 30, he has alcohol and cocaine addictions, the alcohol triggers the need for cocaine. He had been experimenting with different substances since age 14. It was a living nightmare living with him. He also has an addictive personality. Gambling, sex, alcohol, cocaine- whatever he does- he does it 100%. I think he has ocd. It came to a head 2 yrs ago, he was about to lose everything. Job, flat, car his family- he reached out for help. He attended AA and CA groups and through the help from these guy, he got himself clean. He had a couple of relapses on the way- but he is currently 1 year clean! I wanted you to know, that people care, there IS help out there- but you need strength and determination to get you through it. Read Danman83 and Jamesb posts here, they are guys in recovery offering support and advice. Keep posting and let us know how you're doing- you have already taken the first step in admitting that addiction is taking over your life. Stay strong my friend ❤️ Lx

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Alcoholic adult son by

Such a shame that there was nothing for him in prison. I know they are there as a form of punishment - but more has to be done by way of rehabilitation. He needs to realise himself that he needs help, until that happens- it's just a waiting game and self - preservation for you. Please look after yourself as best as possible. Let him know that you love him and will support him when he's ready to accept help- But his behaviour is totally unacceptable as it is. My son is doing well- 1 Yr free of alcohol and cocaine- a miracle. I thank God every day, but continue to pray for his strength to fight this evil of addiction. Stay strong my friend ❤️ Lx

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Supporting someone by

Hi Nova, welcome to the forum, thank you for sharing your story. Everyone here has a loved one with addiction or people in recovery offering support and advice too. My son is 29yr, has alcohol and cocaine addictions. Its been a living nightmare for 10+ years, but he's currently almost 1 year sober. He admitted he needed support after a really bad episode of drink. He had the shakes too. Doctors weren't much help, AA was the best support. Lots of people, some in recovery for years offering support and advice. He joined CA too. You have to go to meetings regularly though- he says it's his medicine. It's worth a try- it's been tried and tested since the 1930s. Look after yourself in the meantime, find time for something you enjoy. He's in for a tough ride but well worth the effort. Keep in touch here, lots of lovely people willing to help. Drugfam and Icarus trust also offer advice and support. Take care Lx ❤️

My mum's drinking is getting worse by

Hi Chloe, I think we spoke before on another thread. I'm sorry to hear that your mum's addiction isn't any better. I think when a person with addictions is lashing out at their loved ones, is because deep down they know they're in the wrong and they are just deflecting it to you, to make you think you're the one who's wrong! Does that make sense? They're basically pushing the blame on you when you are doing nothing except trying to help. Have you contacted any of the support groups I suggested before? I think it's maybe time to contact the Icarus trust or Drugfam, they support the family affected, not the person with addiction. They will give you advice and support and do not judge. Your mum has to be the one to seek support from AA when she admits that alcohol is taking over her life. I agree with Debc, you should confide in someone- please try Drugfam or Icarus trust. Take care of yourself in the meantime as best you can Chloe. Lx ❤️

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I I am new to this and don't no if im doing it proper by

Yeah, he still goes to his meetings regularly too, keeps in touch with the fellowship guys. I think years of abuse has had an effect on his mental health. His coping strategies are better, thanks to stuff he's learned from the Big Book. He's looking great though, and much healthier thankfully. All the hard work and effort is paying off - the CA groups are a Godsend. He'd love to have a lady in his life but that'll happen in It's own time! Hope all is well with you Dan - so pleased for you too 😀 Lx ❤️

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