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Posts by Lindyloo


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Anonymous by

You're welcome Treasure. My son had to stop seeing his friends, and anyone who might trigger him to drink then use. So hard for them, but he has made some good friends through the fellowship and they organise weekends with activities regularly. Click the above "share your story " there was a recent response on it. It's a long thread, but when you read through it, you won't feel so isolated- everyone is so kind and understanding. Stay strong, enjoy the simple things in life, be kind to yourself. Sending hugs of support Lx

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Really alone by

You definitely have not let him down. When they are under the spell of addiction, that's all they think about. Nothing else matters, only the alcohol, weed, cocaine or whatever. It messes with their brain, they don't think clearly. Let him know you love him, and will support him when he's ready. But don't enable him, speak to Icarus trust, they have counselling I believe. For the "Theresa " thread, click the "share your story " and scroll down. You'll see that you're not alone. The mums offer words of support and advice, even though they have their own troubles. I understand the "loss", like you're grieving for the son he used to be, I did that too. Please have faith and strength, mostly look after yourself. Take care Lx ❤️

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Cocaine spiral by

Hi Charm, welcome to the forum where most people here have a loved one with addictions and also some people in recovery offering support and advice. Thank you for sharing your story, I think this is your first step to recovery by admitting you have an addiction and want support. You should be proud of yourself for taking this step. I wondered if you had read Jamesb story, he is a person in recovery offering good advice. My son is 29 and has alcohol and cocaine addictions, he reached out for support 2 years ago. He was in your situation, struggling, addiction spiralling, mounting debt, about to lose job, house etc. We helped him with some of the debt and he paid up the rest. He joined AA and CA groups, met others, formed new friendship and got great support from these guys. He's been through some tough times battling this but I'm proud to day he is currently 8 months clean. He has to do meetings regularly and unfortunately had to cut ties with his usual friends. He has completed abstained from drinking- he has to, as alcohol is a trigger to using cocaine. I wanted you to know that there IS a way out of this nightmare! Please seek help from CA groups, they do them regularly online, and face to face. They do 12 step program- same as rehab centres, you get a sponsor who will contact you regularly. You are still young with your whole life ahead of you, please seek help - don't let this evil addiction take over your life. Stay strong. Sending you hugs and prayers. Lx

by Lmb97x

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Help for my Brother by

Hi sisterindistress, Welcome to the forum, everyone here has a loved one who has addictions and also some people in recovery offering support and advice. Thank you for sharing your story. I know this must be very hard for you. I know adfam homepage offer advice and counselling also Drugfam is available for support. Maybe they could assist you? Living with a person who has an addiction is a nightmare. We went through the same with my son since he was 14. He had alcohol and cocaine addictions. I know about the aggressive and selfish behaviour, waiting for the next bad thing to happen. Until he realises he has a problem and seeks help, it's a very tricky situation to make them do something they don't want to do. It's also difficult to reason with someone who has an addiction or mental health issues. In the meantime, seek help for yourself, look after your own health and well-being. My son is currently 7 months clean, with help from AA and CA groups and meetings. Take care ❤ Lx

by Hockley

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Seeking help desperately by

Hi Charlie, welcome to the forum, everyone here has a loved one who has addictions and also some people in recovery offering support and advice. Thank you for sharing your story, I think this is the first step you have taken. To admit that the addiction has taken over your live and seeking help. If you scroll back a bit and read Danman83 posts, he is a person in recovery offering support and advice. My son is currently 7 months clean, and only managed this through joining CA and AA meetings. He says it's the only thing that works, you meet others in the same situation, people who have been clean for years all offering support. Keep posting here and let us know how you're doing. Stay strong my friend, people care. Lx

How do i seek help? by

Hi rikrota, welcome to the forum. There are a lot of people here who have loved ones with addictions and some people in recovery too offering support and advice. I am so sorry to hear that you are going through a difficult time just now. My son has cocaine and alcohol addictions. He is 29 but when he was a teen he partied way too hard than his friends. I didn't realise it at the time but he was mixing drugs with alcohol. He's told me now he did it because it made him feel more confident. Unfortunately he got addicted and he also has an addictive personality so he couldn't stop when all his friends could ! I would urge you to seek help, you are so young and I would hate for you to experience what my son has been through. Adfam has a homepage with counselling service also the Icarus trust. Is there someone you could trust or confide in? As a parent I would want to know that my child is struggling. Please think about telling your family how you feel. They would hate to know that you have these fears and anxieties. There are coping strategies to deal with these without taking drugs or alcohol. This only makes matters worse. Please seek help and support as soon as possible. Let us know here how you are doing. Take care, Lx ❤

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