Coccaine addiction by PopplesI'm in exactly the same position in that I found out January and although we are not officially together emotionally we are. It is so difficult to walk away from someone you love even knowing the relationship as a result of the addiction is not good. Ultimately we have to put our kids first otherwise what message does it give them? I struggle though as my ex is a gentle kind person and at his best great fun to be around. I'm not helping him though in fact I think I'm making things worse for him. I think when they can just focus on themselves life is easier for them and also they have to face some harsh truths.